Hostile Resting Face Syndrome is a thing... or is it?
It started with my youngest daughter.
The beginning of the answer to the mystery of why so many people ask me “are you mad?” And I’m not.
We sat across from each other during lunch the other day. “Mom, are you okay?”
Her question stopped the trajectory of my spoon towards my gaping mouth. “Yes.” Well, I was thinking about things other than what we’d been discussing. But, that was besides the point. “I’m fine… why?”
“You looked mad at the nail salon that’s all.” First, who could get mad while they are getting a treat? Second, I was thinking about missing said daughter when she leaves for college this fall.
The topic came up again while I was scrolling through the internet looking for a pair of sunglasses. An article captured my attention.
I’d looked for the best styles for a diamond shaped face. The writer made the point that sometimes an unsmiling diamond shaped face can be read as “catty.” I have a diamond shaped face.
After reading the post, memories of people calling me snobby, catty and arrogant ran through my mind.
The struggle is real folks. I can sit by my lonesome with no thoughts of being superior to anyone, or just enjoying my soup and I am looking somehow arrogant. Or, snobby, or intimidating.
This is a complete mind blow to me. Because for the most part, I am a people person. In fact, I’ve gone so far as embarrassing my poor family by talking with “gasp” strangers. All. the. time.
So the next time you think someone is intimidating or arrogant, remember, they might be suffering from Hostile Resting Face Syndrome. I can't say it without smiling. Who knew they'd name a syndrome after my face?
How about you? Have you ever been accused of something that is the polar opposite to who you are? If so, what do you do to change the misperception?