Why do we pressure ourselves particularly when life is hitting us with problems? Some of the most well adjusted people I know are involved in an ongoing pressure that would take the average person out. One case in point was my Aunt Sweetie. Yup, that was her name and she was my mom's cousin and best friend growing up. Aunt Sweetie (A.K.A. Winnie) wanted children very much so she adopted two sons. When she and my uncle did have a biological child, they discovered he had a rare disease. She lost her son when he was only a child.
I remember Aunt Sweetie laughing and making my mom happy. Apparently they'd done a lot together as children including "shenanigans". Her demeanor was of a content person who never let anything get her down. In fact, I knew I wanted to be like her. Through her life, she taught me "chutzpah."
While her son's condition continued to deteriorate I only have memories of her smiling. Too young to know any different, I just thought every one had that kind of "constitution". Personally, I don't think we are born with a positive attitude as I've been told, I believe we develop them.
"Thank the Lord for using each person as a tool in your life to deepen your insight into His grace and conforming you to the image of His Son."
Unfortunately, my favorite aunt suffered from the torrid side effects of chemotherapy in the last years of her life. I remember when it was time for her to go home. She was in the hospital and she began talking about people who had died before her and "seeing" them. The veil between heaven and earth growing dim.
Maybe she looked forward to see my cousin again, I don't know...all I know is that I did not come away with the idea that she suffered as much as she was grateful for the gift of life she'd been given.
When we suffer loss it's okay to let go of the extra things that we do for others and just focus on Jesus. Resting on His words and His promises.
1. Time in the word
2. Time outside in a beautiful place that minsters to our souls.
3. Time with a friend instead of working. Well, I can do that because I'm self employed and make my own schedule. But, a friend is only a phone call away during lunch break and it's the same concept.
4. Time to be real with our loved ones. This is especially important for me with my family and friends. When you are a positive person, you become an encourager to others. And, they rely on you to lift them up. Sometimes the emotional rock needs time to get built up again in the "Rock" of Jesus Christ. And, I'm here to tell you~ it's okay.
What a wonderful gift. To have a spouse who is your best friend. Someone who sticks with you through good and bad. Someone who loves you when you are strong and when you are weak.
Difficulties bring out our strengths. Over time though stress can fracture even the strongest constitution.
One of my dearest friends told me she'd had a dream where I was driving a monster truck downhill at a very fast speed. She saw me headed towards my house and she screamed "Jesus." She said that the truck struck the house and mowed it down. To me, I'm learning that I can't be "the emotional rock" anymore. And, my husband now has the freedom to lead our family as the godly influence God ordained him to be.
"If we have built on the fragile cornerstones of human wisdom, pride, and conditional love, things may look good for a while, but a weak foundation causes collapse when storms hit." Charles Stanley
Father, I pray you will bless this reader beyond their wildest dreams. May they know the presence of your Holy Spirit, be fully aware of your angels all around them. May they know You as their one true and first love. Let everything in their lives be an offshoot of your plan and your purpose for them. May they have a faith that holds them fast for the day of trouble, always rejoicing giving thanks to you. May they have revelation of the glory to come and their full inheritance in you as children of the King. For yours is the glory, the honor and the power now and forever. In the matchless name of Jesus I ask you... Amen.